Today, I’ve decided to share my personal story of experiencing life transitions within my own life. I know I probably still have a few more to experience as I grow spiritually in my journey, but I thought today would be a good starting point to help you understand that there is always a greater purpose beyond the doubt and anxiety that you might be feeling during your journey of transitioning from the old to the new.
You are absolutely, positively supposed to be reading the words on this page if you are about to embark on an important life transition or you are currently experiencing one and are feeling somewhat stuck and overwhelmed. Change is inevitable, and if you are not equipped with a holistic blueprint of how you are going to navigate that transition (mid life crisis in your 30s and 40s) you run the risk of being trapped in a life that doesn’t align with your core values or your authentic purpose in life. I can speak to such a life because I was once where you are; at a crossroad, intuitively knowing I wanted more for my life but unsure or rather fearful of how I was going to make it happen.
Seeds of Transition
In my final year of university, something shifted in me. My passion and excitement for what I was diligently studying to become, a Social Justice Lawyer, waned and my interest in the legal profession was no longer an absolute, I MUST achieve this goal. Nothing in my life was working for me anymore; my grades were suffering, I was juggling motherhood as a single parent and I had just broken up with my ex-boyfriend, who I later found out was in fact a Covert Narcissist (narcissistic abuse is a very real occurrence), which left me feeling physically exhausted, spiritually drained and emotionally disconnected from my life and the people I cared for the most; I essentially shut down and felt like a walking corpse. Being the stubborn Taurus that I am meant that quitting was not an option. So, I buried my emotions (not recommended) and managed to stay on track with my studies, graduating from my pre-law program with an impressive GPA, which gave me the option of applying to grad school. I felt as though I had finally made it over the finish line, but I intuitively sensed an unnamable void deep within me that left me feeling unfulfilled and anxious about what was going to be my next move? Reflecting back on that dark period of my life, I now realize the universe was preparing me for a life-changing transition; however, I needed to be incubated for a period so that I could fully comprehend why I needed to be spiritually detoxed, before embarking on my image and life transition.
I spent the next couple of years wandering through life trying to figure out why I felt so empty and without purpose. Life at this point had become miserably routinized and mundane. My social life essentially had become non-existent at this point, preferring the solitude of an unconscious, self-imposed isolation (also not recommended). I did not realize at that point in my life that what I most needed was a complete life overhaul! One that reflected my core personal values and a life that was not scripted by society or family expectations – A life on my own terms. The defining moment for me happened when a close family member passed away suddenly from Diabetes and then shortly after her passing, my great aunt was diagnosed with aggressive stage 4 lung cancer. Having watched her battle cancer with such tenacity, courage and integrity reminded me in that moment that our time here on earth is short and our life’s purpose should not be wasted in mediocrity or chasing after fancy titles that are not serving our highest purpose. I made a very conscious decision that I would no longer accept or allow society and other people’s scripts of how my life ought to be lived to be dictated to me. I leaped and actively chose to redesign my life one that now authentically aligns with my passion and purpose in life it was during this transition in my life when I began to ask the questions I was too afraid and spiritually closed off to receiving the answers to.
I do not believe anything in life happens by coincidence. Sometimes that sparkling, symbolic trophy we are working ourselves to death to accomplish or “magically” manifest into our life, without doing the necessary inner work, is the very same tool the universe will turn around on us and use to teach us a life lesson that ultimately propels us into another direction in life; whether we are prepared to do so, or not. My lived experiences during this very difficult time in my life motivated me to take ALL my regrets and toxic experiences and transform them into an awakened, passionate and thriving life.
As the adage goes ‘change is never easy’ the more I meditated and took specific actionable steps towards revamping my life the more empowered, focused and intentional I became in creating a purposeful life, a life that is dedicated to coaching other women, such as yourself, who are also experiencing major shifts in their own life and require additional support in transitioning and transforming from the old to the new. My path was not an easy one. There were many sleepless nights I would sit in the still darkness questioning my very existence. It was a time of rebuilding my inner faith in my abilities and talent, but also in a greater divine source that I would come to rely upon through prayer and meditation for strength, support and guidance. In 2016 I began to slowly piece together the vision of what is now Transition Your Image and Life. I knew that I did not want to only offer image and style coaching programs for women, but I wanted to also offer that missing link we women often feel fancy clothing, and glitzy accessories can permanently fix and that would be renewing our soul’s connection to our higher selves. Now, don’t get me wrong, fabulous clothing and fierce accessories do play an integral role in your transformation, but I am also interested in helping and supporting you in identifying or reclaiming your passion for life. My journey thus far has been challenging, exhilarating and most importantly transformational. Whether you found my image and style coaching programs by happenstance or universal alignment I invite you to consider where your life is today, both personally and professionally, and where you would like it to be 1-3 years from now. Then ask yourself – What if?
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If you are interested in learning more about developing your personal style to authentically align with the essence of who you are, I encourage you to check out the following Intro Style Metamorphosis Coaching Sessions I offer to women who are ready to transition their image and personal style with VISION and PASSION.
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If you are a woman currently experiencing important transitions within your professional or personal life I highly recommend that you apply for our complimentary 30-minute lifestyle clarity session. During your 30-minute session with Melissa you will discuss the area of life you are currently feeling stuck within or perhaps you are experiencing your first transition and would like feedback on what your next steps should be and how to move forward as an exclusive client of Melissa’s if you choose to enroll in one of her signature image & style development programs or transitional life coaching sessions.
Melissa .T. Jarred is a certified Toronto Image Consultant and Personal Stylist who works with women expeiencing life transitions who feel deep within their soul that it is time to not only up-level and overhaul their entire life, but to also revamp their image and personal style to authentically align and reflect with the new changes that are emerging in your life.