Ladies, I have two question for you that I would like you to think about.
How will your image, style and wardrobe influence your new year goals in 2018? And… do you know how to completely change your appearance to authentically align with the new direction of your life.
Now that the festive, holiday season is officially over and you, hopefully, have had some time to self-reflect on the progress you made or didn’t make in 2017; how do you plan on showing up in your life both personally and professionally, starting TODAY? Below are 6 action steps you can begin implementing to ensure that whatever you have envisioned for your life moving forward in 2018 will authentically align with the new direction of your image and personal style.
Yes, I know. We’ve all heard about vision boarding your dreams to help you manifest and remain focused on the end goal, but how many of you have created a vision style board with the intention of recreating how you will visually show up in your life once you have manifested that new job or promotion? Perhaps you’ve finally decided to start dating again after a horrible break up in 2017; do you want to transition back into the dating scene with same old wardrobe, hairstyle and expired makeup? Grab a few fashion magazines if you are old school and prefer the cut and paste method; or you can use Pinterest to create a collage of looks and beauty trends that authentically resonate with you and use that to guide you in revamping your image and personal style in the areas you are concentrating on in 2018; whether personally or professionally.
2. Dedicate the month of January to PURGING your closet; also known as a wardrobe audit.
I’ve written about the purpose and methodical process of conducting a wardrobe audit at least two times a year, which you can read about here. January is an excellent time to dedicate some personal time to cleansing away stagnant, toxic energy from your wardrobe, accessories and essentially your life. As you go through the process of elimination and organization, ask yourself three important questions: How does this item make me feel when I have worn it in the past? Does it make me feel empowered and confident or self-conscious and reserved? Have you worn that item more than three times? Not once or twice, but at least three times in the past 6-months. Most importantly, do the clothing items in your wardrobe align with the new direction of your life in 2018?
3. Is your personal style outdated?
You may need to seek trusted advice from close family members, friends and perhaps work colleagues whose advice you value; and ask them, is your personal style still relevant in 2018 or do you need to reconnect with the Essence of Your Personal Style in 2018? Be open to whatever their response might be. Don’t get upset, shy away or shut down the conversation. You maybe surprised at how others perceive you from an objective viewpoint, which can be quite revealing and yes, a loving dose of reality; that we all need to hear from time to time. Accept the good and bad of what they have to say. Write it down or make a mental note of it and think about how you can make incremental changes in your image and personal style over the next 6-months. Perhaps you need to upgrade your wardrobe, change your hair color or start taking better care of your grooming. The point is to utilize their feedback as a barometer of how you’ve been showing up in the past and strategically using the first month of 2018 to begin transitioning your image and personal style to the next level.
4. Be aware of the psychological impact of the colours you choose to wear. It can impact your personal style
What does colour have to do with you transforming and aligning your image and personal style with your 2018 new year goals? Well, if you haven’t done so already I highly suggest you read my article on Colour Analysis: How it Can Impact Your ROI. The main points I expand upon within this article is the fact that humans are subconsciously wired to visually communicate and receive non-verbal messages first before anything else, which ultimately influences our response to other people, whether we are aware of those reactions or not. As such, the psychological impact of the type of colours we wear can have either a negative or positive reaction from those we interact with daily. Have you ever received a well-intentioned comment or question either at work or a social gathering asking you if you were feeling tired or ill; or that you looked exhausted even though you had a full night’s rest, and feel healthy. Such reactions are a possible indicator that you may be wearing the wrong colour(s) that do not illicit a positive response from other people, while illuminating the most polished, energized version of your best self.
5. Have you committed to removing toxic relationships from your life moving forward in 2018?
What I have learned from my personal journey of transformation within my own life is that if you have allowed crappy, toxic, oppressive relationships to take root in your life, you more than likely have been emitting the same type of energy within other areas of your personal and professional relationships; and if that is the case, you need to commit to first removing those individuals out of your life that are seeking to keep you pinned under their negative energy. Next, you need to get clear about your boundaries moving forward in 2018! Ladies, please understand that your self-image and personal style are intimately linked to how you feel about yourself from within; which ultimately influences how you visually show up in your life. If you are in a stagnant, emotionally abusive relationship like I once was your ability to view and accept yourself with unconditional LOVE, SELF-ACCEPTANCE and RESPECT for your life as a unique, divine woman will always be difficult to grasp and ultimately be empowered by because you have allowed the toxic, negative energy of a relationship to reduce you to THEIR STANDARDS not yours. Lastly, once you have decided to step into your POWER and TRUTH (read the article here) you will notice a significant difference in how you present yourself to the world; with authority, respect and self-love for yourself; which radiates from within outwardly that is reflected in your personal style.
6. ‘Me Time’ is still a thing. Try to maintain your self-care days in 2018.
Lastly, I’ve also learned over the years to successfully upkeep my image and personal style from an authentic, holistic approach by diligently investing in my self-care. No, this does not mean getting a mani and pedi every week or investing in a spa day; which, don’t get me wrong, all play an integral role in maintaining our physical self-care, but rather I’ve learned to turn off and tune out for a day or two from social media, the chatter of outside noise and weekly gossip and turn up some relaxing music; indulging in a self-nourishing, soulful book or simply spending time with myself in healthy solitude. I know as the new year progresses that it is easier said than done with all our commitments to family and work etc. I get it, but if you are serious about up-leveling and transitioning your life in 2018 taking that one day out of the week to unplug, center our spirits and refocus our intentions will do wonders for our emotional and spiritual growth moving forward; which ultimately transcends our inner being and positively enhances how we present ourselves to the world both visually (our personal style) and intellectually.
Okay, ladies, that’s it for now. I hope this article has motivated you to start thinking differently about your image and personal style; and how you intend to cultivate and align the two while moving forward with your 2018 new year goals!
If you are ready to start taking action, I invite to check out our complimentary Lifestyle Clarity Consultation to begin the process of stylishly, moving forward in 2018!
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Melissa .T. Jarred is a certified Toronto Image Consultant and Personal Stylist who works with women expeiencing life transitions who feel deep within their soul that it is time to not only up-level and overhaul their entire life, but to also revamp their image and personal style to authentically align and reflect with the new changes that are emerging in your life.