Transitioning from one phase of life to the next can be a very scary and tumultuous experience, especially when you do not have an established support system already in place to catch you if you fall during your transition, and believe me you will stumble and perhaps even fall, sorry but it’s the truth; however, what’s even more important is found in the process of getting back up and allowing your truth to first piss you off and then utilizing that energy to create a life that is empowered and fueled with passion and purpose. As part of my preparation for today’s post I spent some time reviewing my first reflection journal that I was encouraged to start writing in as a way to focus my thoughts, but to also give myself a private, non-judgmental space to empty my emotions into, which played an integral role in the beginning stages of the inner work and healing that I underwent at that specific time in my life and continue to do so today.
There is a particular quote that stood out to me and I would like to share it with you today that not only helped me remove the many mask I was wearing in my life at that time, but it also helped me to strip down to the nitty-gritty of my truth. Highlighted and circled in bright red it stated, “The truth will set you free, but first it will also piss you off”. I don’t exactly remember where I heard or read this quote, as I was reading various self-discovery books and listening to inspiring podcast from successful female entrepreneurs and activist across the web, but it was thought provoking enough for me to have written it down in my beloved journal. Indeed – the truth will piss you off – especially if our truth is reflecting back to us unsavory decisions and choices we’ve made in the past that not only hurt and stunted our own growth, but indirectly impacted the life of someone else. I’ve spoken about, in another post, finding your truth and stepping into your power (re: Making the Decision: Standing in Your Truth and Power) but what we must also be aware of, and what I have learned time and again through trial and error is that in order to intentionally move forward with transitioning and transforming our life and image from the old to the new, we must first acknowledge and own our mistakes without excuse, ego or blame.
An analogy I like to reference is cloaked in the question will the devil (situation or person) always come dressed in sheep’s clothing? Most likely, otherwise we wouldn’t willingly allow toxic people or situations to stay in our lives for very long; so, are we necessarily the one to blame when the wool has been pulled over our eyes more than once? Yes and no. If you notice there is a destructive, repetitive pattern in your life for experiencing betrayal, failure, and mediocrity you must have at some point intuitively felt or sensed an unearthing in your spirit alerting you to the fact that something within you needs to change NOW, but as I have personally done in the past, and I am sure you have as well, was to let that intuitive nudging from your inner self let it slide one too many times hoping that the next time it will be different, hoping that the next compromise you make for them will change their behaviour towards you, hoping that if I just bend over a little further for this person they will want to remain in your life. The more we ignore, set aside, turn our heads and even walk away from the truth of our lived experiences the more we deceive ourselves and impede our own self-growth to move forward in life. Take a moment to reflect back on a time in your life, or perhaps at present on a situation that did not or is not serving your highest purpose in life; and think about what actions you took or lack thereof because you were too afraid to speak up for yourself or you were too caught up in protecting the feelings of the other person involved; or perhaps protecting your image from being perceived as being weak or ineffectual. How did that situation turn out for you?
Facing the truth is one thing, but allowing the nitty-gritty of that truth to first piss you off and then directing that energy to empower and use you for a greater and higher purpose is where the real power resides. When I was embarking on my life’s transition and transformation I did not want to face my truth at first because I did not know how to authentically connect with that aspect of myself, but once I allowed myself the space to vent, look inwards without condemnation or guilt I was able to embrace the two faces of truth.
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